Inspiring Mama Podcast
A happiness podcast for moms and dads. Learn new ways to think, move, and relate with yourself and your family. Host Lauren Fire shares practical tools and strategies and interviews amazing experts all to teach you how to practice happiness and enjoy more of your life, in the moment.
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Productschmivity: Get More Done in Less Time | Ep 45
Wed, Dec 16, 2015
It’s time to stop feeling frustrated by your productivity. Host Lauren Fire shares the harrowing tale of creating a time management system she actually likes and shares a new way to look at the To-Dos in your life.
How can we get stuff done and enjoy the process? Learn how to set yourself up to win and start working WITH yourself instead of fighting yourself. Stop cycling through organizational systems, books, and techniques that make no real impact and start creating your own.
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Use Your Personal Style to Bring Out Your True Self | Ep 44
Tue, Dec 01, 2015
Your personal style is a powerful tool in your transformational toolbox. With a few shifts in your wardrobe, you can re-ignite the AMAZING parts of YOU that get overlooked in the hustle of everyday parenting life.
Stylist Joui Turandot will teach us how to re-ignite ourSELVES by tuning into our personal style. Learn how to use your clothing to bring out the parts of you that you want to show the world.
Learn how to use your wardrobe to shift your emotional state and to create the confidence, sexiness, and joy that you're craving. Break through personal style barriers and negative self-talk and bring the fun back into your wardrobe.
Joui also shares a few style hacks and tricks that she uses to get more out of her closet and to find clothing that really inspires you.
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How to Finally Win the Shame Game | Ep 43
Tue, Nov 10, 2015
What if we didn’t use shame to motivate ourselves?
Host Lauren Fire talks about the shame she’s been struggling with lately and teaches you a step-by-step process to transform your relationship with shame. Learn how to move from shame into appreciation and sef-acceptance.
“You can hate your decision and not hate yourself. You have that choice.” - Lauren Fire
In this episode, you will learn a new tool you can use to architect your inner world. What would it look like NOT to punish yourself when you make a mistake? What would it be like to say: “Yes, I made a decision and I don’t like the consequences. But so what!” Can you can accept yourself anyway?
There are no “wrong” decisions, only consequences. Some we like, some we don’t. Either way, once you make a decision, it’s in the past. Shame only creates more suffering in the moment. If we can learn how to turn to appreciation and self-acceptance in the face of shame, we can create a positive feeling state that will counter the negative.
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When I Grow Up: Changing Careers & Finding a Job You Love | Ep 42
Tue, Oct 27, 2015
Still trying to figure out what you want to be when you grow up? Many parents find that they feel frustrated by their jobs after they have kids. Maybe you want a more flexible work week, fewer hours, less stress, or just want to change careers entirely. But where do you start?
In this inspiring conversation, mompreneur RB Fast will tell us her story of transitioning out of a busy career into her own profitable business while balancing motherhood. Learn how to open yourself to the dream of a different career and find the courage to ask yourself honestly: What would I love to do?
Get jazzed to try new things, meet new people, and open yourself up to the dream job you didn't know you'd love. Understand the danger of excuse-based thinking and start moving through fears blocks and transitioning while still keeping your day job. Learn how to create a support system with your family and friends.
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How to Swim Through Overwhelm & Chaos | Ep 41
Tue, Oct 13, 2015
How do you thrive amid the busyness and overwhelming details of parenthood? Host Lauren Fire discusses the two words that are finally allowing her to make real changes in her life.
"At some point it stops becoming about what happened to you, whatever you blame things on, and it starts being about what you’re doing today in your head to continue that pattern and recreate the situation that is causing your pain, depression or anxiety.” -Lauren Fire
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Turn Down Your Mind & Turn Up Your Experience | Ep 40
Wed, Sep 30, 2015
Ever feel like your mind is running you? Learn how to turn down your mind and turn up your enjoyment. In this episode, host Lauren Fire gets macro and discuses how to find your true self and let go of the stupidity that floods your mind. With this new tool, you can reduce anxiety, depression, overwhelm, or stress.
Learn how to stop taking the content of your mind so seriously. Get what it really means to find the SELF you’ve been looking for and create a new kind of relationship with your every day experience.
When you learn to enter the present moment state, something magical happens, whether you’re washing the dishes or sitting on a cliff top in lotus pose. You connect with your SELF and you find a new level of intelligence and a place of acceptance and love.
When you truly get this, you can stop trying to fix yourself and start trying to just be yourself.
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How to Stop Shoulding All Over Yourself | Ep 39
Wed, Sep 16, 2015
I should be working out right now. I should be eating healthier. I shouldn’t be on Facebook. I should should should should! Using the word “should” in your head actually makes you LESS productive and MORE unhappy.
Learn a 3-step process to get rid of the “shoulds” in your head that will empower you and propel you toward what you want.
Use this exercise during times of high stress, anxiety, depression, or whenever you notice that you are feeling more guilt and shame than usual.
Here is the 3-Step Process, called The Should-a-Nator:
Step 1: Notice your “shoulds”
What “should” you do? Ask yourself that question and I bet you’ll get a whole flood of all of the shoulds that your brain likes to beat you up with. You shouldn’t watch that much TV. You should be buying organic. You shouldn’t have quit breastfeeding so early. You should be running like that old high school friend on Facebook who lost 30lbs.
Step 2: Ask: Do I “want” to do this? If so, replace “should” with “want.”
Next time you notice a “should,” in real time, ask yourself “do I really want to do that”?
Example: “I should be working out more. Do I want to work out more? Yes I do."
Now replace “should” in your head with “want.”
Example: I want to work out more.
Notice how that makes you feel different than “I should be working out more.” "I want to work out more" propels you forward. It motivates you.
If, every time you think “I should work out” you instead think “I want to work out” you are more likely to take the action of working out.
Shoulds make us feel weak, they make us feel like we are teenagers being instructed by the parent in our head. They make us want to rebel and do the opposite.
Self-abuse is a terrible way to motif ate yourself. If you are doing something to avoid your own harsh criticism, that sort of motivation is not sustainable. Find your want - your desire - for the result that you’re getting. Your desire for the result is the motivation that will take you from shoulding to actually taking action.
if you actually want to accomplish the “should’ then change “should” to ‘want” and work to make that change permanent. The more you correct yourself in your head, the faster you can rewire your brain for success.
Step 3: If the answer is “No” -Challenge your “should” or Schedule the task
When you notice something you “should” do, ask yourself “do I want to do this?” If the answer is “no” then it’s time to reevaluate why you are shoulding this. Is the task something that actually needs to be done, or something that you just feel pressured to do? If the task actually needs to be done but you just don’t want to do it (like your taxes for example) then acknowledge that it needs to be done. Acknowledge that you don’t wan tot do it, but have to. and then pull out your calendar and plan a time to actually do it. Just pick a day, block off the time, and plan it. Then you can let it go.
If the task is one you can let go - let it go. For example I hear “I should be making every bit of food that my daughter eats.” When I challenge that, I realize that it’s a ridiculous standard for myself. And I decide to let that one go.
Or “I should be reading more fiction books.” Do I want to read more fiction books? No I don’t. It just seems like something other women do and enjoy. Let it go.
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From Burnout to All Out - How to Have it All Without Losing It | Ep 38
Wed, Sep 02, 2015
How do you “have it all” without burning out? People keep telling you to “slow down” or “de-stress” but how do you slow down when life won’t slow down? How do you keep your body and mind healthy while trying to be, do and enjoy everything you want?
Dr. Karen Osburn takes a new look at burnout. Instead of slowing down when life speeds up, Dr. Karen has learned how to step up. All while taking care of her body, mind, marriage, and children. Learn how she thrives when the going gets tough, and how you can too.
"Burnout only happens when you are not fulfilling all your body's needs (physically, mentally and emotionally), OR if you are all in for one aspect of your life (i.e. business), and neglect everything else.” - Dr. Karen Osburn.
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Balance Schmalance: How Stop Feeling Guilty and Just Enjoy It | Ep 37
Wed, Aug 19, 2015
Striving for “Balance” is like being a mouse in an endless maze looking for cheese that doesn’t exist. It can lead to guilt, shame, worry, anxiety, and unhappiness. In this episode, you will learn a new way to think of time management and balance that will reduce your guilt and have you quickly enjoying more of your life.
Society’s notion of balance has parents striving for some magical place where all parts of their lives feel equally cared for. Given the complicated nature of a family, the whole notion of balance simply gives us food for our guilt monster.
You feel guilty when you work instead of spend time with your kid. Then you feel guilty when you leave work early to spend time with your kid. You feel guilty because you haven’t made time for your friends, then feel guilty leaving your kid with a sitter to go to dinner. It goes on and on.
When I gave up thinking that I could balance anything and started instead doing what I’m teaching in this episode, I felt a huge weight get lifted.
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Coping with Crisis - Being OK When it Really Isn't OK | Ep 36
Wed, Aug 05, 2015
A sick child, a baby in the NICU, divorce, and loss...how do you cope with the most difficult struggles? Author Kayla Aimee shares her story of finding gratitude and hope through the flood of difficulties she faced when her daughter was born prematurely at 25 weeks.
How do you not hit anyone who says "Everything happens for a reason..."? How do you "stay strong" when you are crumbling and can't find anything to hold onto? How do you find any sort of peace or comfort when life is ridiculously difficult?
When she was born, Kayla's daughter weighed less than six sticks of butter. In her new book, Anchored: Finding Hope in the Unexpected, Kayla shares the life lessons that got her through the hardest and most traumatic time in her life.
"I want her to see me that way as her mom. I want her to seem me as someone who chooses hope and joy and laughter in the middle of hard things. Because I hope as she gets older, she will too. And I hope that will make her path a little bit easier." - Kayla Aimee
In this incredibly powerful interview, Kayla honestly digs into how she dealt with her crisis and shows us the "how" in "how in the world did you get through it?" Her story will give you hope, inspiration, and a path to healing.
Is someone close to you struggling? Kayla's insights will also help you understand the eye of the storm so that you can more effectively help your loved one sail through. This one is not to be missed!
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I'm the Ground: Finding Your Intuition | Ep 35
Wed, Jul 22, 2015
What does Dora the Explorer have in common with your intuition? Find out in an episode dedicated to finding YOU.
Find your true north voice of intuition and the place of inner compassion and self-love. It exists!
Through a riddle and discussion, you will discover the part of you that can guide you much more effectively and solidly. Find a soft place to land inside your internal world.
Calm the drama in your head. Learn a new way to think about your stories, habits, beliefs and personality traits.
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I’m the Ground … I’m the Ground…I’m the Ground…I’m the GROUND!
The title of this episode occurred to me while I was attempting to meditate with Dora the Explorer stuck in my head: “I’m the map, I’m the map, I’m the map…” yea you get it.
Let's start with a riddle.
Imagine you are on a halfway crowded dance floor, dancing to amazing music. Look around at the people you see.
Suddenly, something about the arrangement of the people on the dance floor bothers you. So you move one tall guy with blonde hair over and pair him with a smaller woman dancing with her eyes closed. They continue to dance. You try to push a small stout man off the dance floor with a shove, but he doesn’t budge. Then you run quickly over to try to calm a hysterical child in the other corner.
Then, everything feels ok again.
You go back to dancing and enjoying the moment, the music.
But then a woman starts screaming and brings you back into more dance floor drama. You move quickly around the dance floor, making peace, trying to re-arranging people, to fix everything.
WHO are you?
This little riddle actually demonstrates how we run the show in our heads. Each person on the dance floor of your mind is a belief, value, story, habit, or personality trait inherited from your past.
We spend our time trying to control these dancers and brutally change parts of ourselves using self-criticism, shame and guilt. We think that if we can just find the right way to do things and fix the broken parts of ourselves, then and only then we can relax, receive, and enjoy our lives.
But all of this work on our heads is exhausting. We can never seem to get it quite right. The process seems to create more anxiety, fear, and stress. And worse, we’re missing the party!
What if there was a different way to do it? What is there was an internal voice that we could listen to that would calm us, give us compassion, and help us make decisions outside of all of that noisy Stuff.
To find that voice, we have to answer the original riddle.
WHO are you?
You are reorganizing the people, rearranging, but you are not the people. You are not your stories, or beliefs. You are not even your “personality.”
You are the ground underneath it all.
You are just the ground. You are that which supports your stuff. You are the one with the front row seat to the craziness that happens in your head.
You don’t have to please those voices, calm the storms, fix anything about yourself, or get caught up in your “Stuff Drama”. You can watch it like a movie – the neutral observer mentioned in mindfulness teachings.
There is nothing that can happen that could make the ground bad, or wrong, or not good enough. That sounds ridiculous. The ground just is.
And you just are. All of that stuff can dance around on top of you, but YOU are that support for it.
So many of us feel like our value as people, whether we are a “good person” or a “bad person,” whether we are deserving of love, and whether we can let ourselves enjoy the moment, is related to how well we can organize our stuff and succeed.
If we don’t succeed, or feel happy, or be social enough, or buy the house, or whatever standard we set up – we don’t let ourselves relax, receive, and enjoy our lives. We must fix!
When you realize that you are the ground, you realize that your ability to relax, receive, and enjoy is not tied at all to your success, failure, or any other stuff.
Let yourself be the ground, and you will stop getting so caught up in the drama of your head. That’s when your intuition will show up in full force.
You will start to find compassion, kindness, self-love, and the YOU that you’re always looking for.
SO whenever you notice yourself getting caught up in your “Stuff Drama”, maybe feeling ashamed, criticized, anxious, depressed, or any emotional storm, remind yourself “I’m the ground, I’m the ground, I’m the ground, I’m the ground, I’m the GROUND!”
And remember that none of it means anything about you. I mean, you’re the f-ing ground. Why should you care?
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Re-shape the Parent in Your Head & Transform Stress, Anxiety, & Depression| Ep 34
Sat, Jul 11, 2015
"It's never too late to have a happy childhood" - Tom Robbins
Learn a new way to think about your relationship with the voices in your head. How do you actually go about reprogramming your brain to change the patterns that cause things like stress, anxiety, depression, self-criticism, and addiction?
In this episode, you will learn how to recognize the destructive voices and patterns in your head and lay down new patterns that support and nourish you. Host Lauren Fire shares the concept of re-parenting and taking back control over the way that you talk to yourself.
This episode will show you how to start to reshape your patterns and reshape how you treat yourself. It’s time to finally change, to finally be the person you’ve always wanted to be. How do you get YOU to emerge? The you that you know you can be…
I. Re-Parenting Yourself
“It’s never too late to have a happy childhood” - Tom Robbins
We all carry a parent with us in our heads. Most of our character, values, and personality comes from how we were parented as children. We adopted the model of our parents, in our heads. Once you realize this, you can get stuck in blame and anger at your parents, resenting them for how they treated you.
But there is no way out of this. It doesn’t matter what happened to you back then. It already happened. The real issue to focus on is: Who is the parent in your head NOW? At some point it ceases to be your parent’s fault anymore, because you are doing this to yourself. You can stop doing it. You can re-shape the parent in your head.
This podcast episode is about a process you can go through to, in essence, re-parent yourself. You get to create the parent in your head. You can re-shape it. That’s why it’s never too late to have a happy childhood.
II. "It’s My Life!” - Taking Back Control
The first step in re-parenting is to take back control. My daughter is two, and recently started saying “It’s my life!” whenever we try to convince her to brush her teeth or get into bed.
That phrase has stuck in my head so much that I’ve actually started using it in the way I look at my life. Whenever I start to notice the self criticism or the parent that I don’t want controlling my head, I say to myself “It’s my life!”
I don’t want to feel guilty about the clothes on my floor. I don’t want to feel mad at myself for not getting enough done. I want to enjoy my life. I want to enjoy this moment not worry about how my hair looks. It’s my life!
See you are always more than that voice. You are not your critical voice. You have a critical voice. You are the one who observes it. You are the container where the voices live. So don’t let the voices control your day to day experience of your life.
III. Playing Dolls with Your Subconscious - Establishing the New Parent
Now that you have decided you want to take back control, you pick the new patterns that you want. What were you missing in your childhood? What are you doing differently from your parents? For me, I need more nurturing, support, unconditional love, compassion, emotional support.
Once you decide what you are missing, what sorts of things would you need to say to yourself to invoke these feelings? What sorts of things would you have wanted your parents to say to you? What would help you now?
For me, its: It’s ok. Trust me. You can trust me. Relax. I’m not going anywhere. NO matter what you do, I will pick you up, I will love you, I will support you. You’re ok. Just cry if you need to. It’s going to look better tomorrow. This is just sadness, you’ll be ok.
I’m recreating in my head the safe place to land that I’ve always needed. I’m creating a place of ultimate compassion, that no matter what, I’ve got my back. No matter what I do or don’t do, I will still love myself. What kind of place do you want to create for yourself?
Now pick scenarios that generally trigger you and cause emotional storms. Role-play in your head how you would like that parent voice to respond. Play dolls, in essence, with the voices in your head.
It will feel weird at first, like these voices are not mature. They are not overly developed. So it’s like you’re dealing with a child in your head that you want to turn into a parent. So you have to be gentle with it.
Practice this regularly and you will start to shift your entire life.
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Beyond Blame - How to Be More than Your Circumstances | Ep 33
Wed, Jun 24, 2015
Do you ever feel trapped by the situation you are in or by what someone has done to you? We create false limits for ourselves based on our circumstances. Guest Sonia Johnson, the founder of Box Me Mommy shares her powerful story of creating a beautiful life and business, despite growing up in an abusive family.
Your ability to create the life you want is not dependent on your income, family, or back story. Your happiness and success is inextricably tied to the way YOU see yourself and your life so far.
This means you have way more power than you are using. In this episode, learn how to let go of blame and anger at what happened to you and see yourself as MORE than your circumstances.
Sonia grew up with a drug addicted father, an abusive mother, an even more abusive step father, gangs and violence. But through it all, Sonia kept her vision for her life clear.
She always saw herself as more than her family or the abuse. No matter what happened, she kept believing she could create what she wanted and be more.
Now living a very successful life, Sonia shares her journey and teaches us the lessons that kept her moving forward. This is a powerful interview that you don’t want to miss!
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Giving the Middle Finger to Your Inner Judge | Ep 32
Wed, Jun 10, 2015
We all have that critical voice in our heads that makes us feel guilty and ashamed. “You’re a bad parent because…” or “why didn’t you work harder and get more done?” You can’t get rid of it, but you can change the way you relate with it and seize its power over your day-to-day experience.
Host Lauren Fire takes you on a journey that will de-throne your judgmental voice and give you back the power to feel more confident, peaceful, and capable in your life. Learn a process you can start using immediately to give the middle finger to your inner judge.
“At some point, you will just stop caring what your inner judge thinks of you.” – Lauren Fire
Self-criticism is one of the worst ways to motivate yourself. Although it feels like it’s working, inner judgment, shame, and guilt rob you of self-esteem and can spin you into depression and anxiety.
The more you engage with your inner judge by fighting with it or complying, the more powerful it will become. Numbing it out with alcohol, food or TV doesn’t work either.
How do we free ourselves?
We must learn to disengage from the judge. In this Podcast you will learn what the inner judge is and where it came from. You will understand how you’ve been engaging with the judge without realizing it, giving it more power. Then you will learn how to change the way you relate to the judge once and for all. Put it in the corner and turn down it’s volume.
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I Do More! Negotiating the Parenting Workload | Ep 31
Wed, May 27, 2015
Who does the dishes more often? Who wakes up more with baby? Who shuttles the kids around more? While simple, these issues can create resentment that may spell trouble in a relationship.
Guests Marcus and Ashley Kusi of the podcast The First Year Marriage Show and authors of the book Communication in Marriage: How to Communicate with Your Spouse Without Fighting, share practical tips and advice for parents on communication, workload distribution, and negotiating the shared responsibility of caring for kids.
According to research, approximately 80 percent of couples experience a huge drop in marital quality during the transition to parenthood. One of the most common sources of marital tension comes from an unequal distribution of the workload that comes with parenthood.
"It’s important to remember that no one is perfect and you’re both going to fail every day…” - Ashley Kusi
Learn how getting on the same team, not keeping score, and appreciating instead of nagging can help balance the workload without fighting. Learn how to practice “empathetic listening,” and understand how to the appreciate and give your spouse space while also balancing your desire to get things done.
Marcus and Ashley will also teach you how to confront your partner about a workload balance problem as well as how to choose a family theme that will guide not only your relationship but also your children's future relationships.
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Shhh! Quiet Your Mind in 5 Seconds or Less | Bonus Episode
Thu, May 14, 2015
This little trick is super useful when you’re feeling overwhelmed, frustrated, nervous or when your head feels noisy. Learn how to turn to your brain and say SHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!
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I spent years learning how to meditate, reading books, going to classes and even silent retreats. I remember sitting in one particular silent retreat just cursing my mind because no matter how hard I tried I couldn’t turn it off. Meditation felt awful to me.
Then one day I finally figured out that turning your mind off is impossible. Even serious meditators will tell you that trying to clear your mind is a useless endeavor. Instead of trying to turn OFF the noise in your head, try this exercise.
Turn your awareness to your body. When I saw awareness, I mean - what are you paying attention to? Ok, let me back up. To answer this question, you first have to realize that YOU are something completely separate from your brain and your body. YOU are the thing that pays attention to your brain or your body. YOU are the capacity for awareness. Deep I know, but follow me here.
You can only pay attention to a few things at a time. Think of your attention like a spotlight. You can turn it onto your thoughts or you can turn it down to your body. When you pay attention to something, it gets brighter and louder. When you don’t pay attention to it, it gets quieter and in turn impacts you less.
Let’s take an example. Right now, pay really exquisite attention to your right hand. Feel if it’s cold or hot. Is it heavy or light? Move your index finger, what does that really feel like if you were trying to describe it? When you turned your attention to your finger, did you notice much more than you were noticing previously?
When you turn your attention to your thoughts, they are louder and harder to handle. When you, instead, turn your attention down to your body, your thoughts feel farther away, quieter. You can turn your attention to one part of your body, your foot, a toe, your nose. Or you can just turn your attention to your body as a whole.
I like to think of my attention like sand. When I’m paying more attention to my brain (in mindfulness we call that “In your head”) the sand is in my head. But when I deliberately turn my attention to my body, I picture that sand flowing down out of my head, down my neck, and into my body. I let the sand drift down and feel more and more heavy in my feet or in my butt if I’m sitting.
Try this now. Close your eyes and turn your attention from your head to your body. Get “into your body” as we like to say in mindfulness practice. You can do all this in seconds, just turn your awareness to your body and let go of whatever is happening in your mind.
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When Life Throws You a Curveball…Coping with Tough Emotions | Ep 30
Wed, May 06, 2015
How do you cope with loss, grief, anger, or deep sadness? Host Lauren Fire discusses a recent loss in her life and explains how old patterns like self-judgment can rear their ugly heads in difficult times.
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Use Your Body to Improve Your Emotional Health | Ep 29
Wed, Apr 08, 2015
Creating a closer partnership with your body can skyrocket your personal growth journey. Guest Erin Burch, aka The Body Whisperer, shares a mind-blowing new way to think about body alignment and emotional health.
If you've been struggling to change something in your mind, this podcast could be the missing piece to your puzzle. Learn an exercise you can use right now to feel more secure and confident, and learn an awareness technique that can change your relationship with your body.
There is a place in your body where tension is designed to be held. Erin calls it your "core container." When you learn how to stack your body's blocks properly and carry tension in this core container, you can uncover freedom of movement and emotion. In this episode you will learn how to discover this "core container" on your body to start changing your tension patterns.
Once I lined up my body and learned how to hold myself up the way my body was meant to work, I was able to think more clearly and feel more joy. It turns out that shifting patterns of tension in your body can be like the fast track to shifting things your mind. Body alignment has actually made my personal growth shifts easier.
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Mom Dating: The Awkward Adventure of Making Friends | Ep 28
Tue, Mar 24, 2015
It takes a village. In this episode you will learn how to create one from "momlationship” expert Melanie Dale, the author of the new book Women Are Scary: The Totally Awkward Adventure of Finding Mom Friends.
Learn how to take a new mom acquaintance through the four “bases” of mom dating to create the nourishing friendships you are craving. “We make each other better moms, better humans,” writes Dale. “We need each other, because mothering is just too darn hard."
In this interview, Dale shares her unexpected journey into momalationships and the lessons she has learned as she has built her own support network. Learn how to develop real soul-southing relationships, avoid foot-in-the-mouth moments and navigate the pitfalls of new friendships.
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Transform Kitchen Stress | Ep 27
Thu, Mar 12, 2015
Got kitchen overwhelm? Feeding the family right has become a source of stress for many parents. Holistic nutritionist and mom Anastasia Hendryanto talks about strategies for preparing real food without getting overwhelmed or spending all day in the kitchen.
Learn a simple way to choose real food and create a plan for improving the nutritional intake of your family. Anastasia discusses the two big sources of kitchen stress, (hint - it comes back to perfectionism!). She then provides valuable advice on reducing the sources of your stress.
Change your strategy for organizing your kitchen, meal planning, and learn how to help your children create a good relationship with food.
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Strategize Your Life to Reduce Stress | Ep 26
Wed, Mar 04, 2015
If you feel like the Sweedish Chef when it comes to projects and tasks in your life (like I do), this episode will change your life. Life systemization expert Megan Flatt teaches simple life management strategies that can clear your overwhelm, cut your anxiety and allow you to live with a new freedom.
Once we become parents, the influx of schedules to balance, stuff to manage, and tasks to juggle can cause undue stress. We have high standards for what we should get done and how our lives should look. But we don’t give ourselves the space to actually learn HOW to do all of this!
When you give yourself time to look strategically at the day-to-day process of your life, you can start to chip away at stressors in a real way. Listen to this episode to take back the drivers seat on the amount of stress that you allow in your life.
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Emotional Housecleaning: Freeing Yourself From the Crap that Keeps You Stuck | Ep 25
Tue, Feb 24, 2015
Time to clean your emotional house!
Learn how to clear out the cobwebs, people, and past situations that may be keeping you from making the changes you want. Host Lauren Fire will teach you a simple method to do a little spring cleaning in your brain.
After this episode, you will know how to go from talking about your problems to actually changing them.
We all have crap - baggage that has happened to us. The happiest people aren't the ones with the least baggage, or the most charmed lives. They are just the ones who learned to carry their baggage better - to live beyond their circumstances.
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In this podcast, learn a method to get rid of your emotional energy suckers. Learn how to shift your perspective on any situation and let go of the resentment, anger, pain, or fear that could be keeping you stuck in many areas of your life.
When practiced, this method will help you create an luggage cart for your emotional baggage! Use this method to heal from depression, anxiety, postpartum depression, overwhelm, and burnout.
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Finding Me Time - How to Solve the Impossible Equation | Ep 24
Tue, Feb 17, 2015
As moms, why do so many of us stink at making time for ourselves? Why is it so hard and what can we do to take back control?
Guest Jessica Turner, author of The Fringe Hours, gives us tips and ideas on how we can actually start to make more time for ourselves. In this powerful interview, Jessica discusses what stops us from making time for ourselves, including the pressure to be everything to everyone, the quest for unattainable perfection, and the guilt we sometimes face when we consider me-time. She then gives us concrete tips to take back control of our lives, move beyond the people-pleasing, guilt, and pressure into a happier, more fulfilled life.
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How to Love Your Body (Even When You Don't Like It) | Ep 23
Tue, Feb 10, 2015
If you are struggling to lose weight, exercise more, or simply live healthier, a change in your body image and body mindset could make all the difference. Body image expert Tamara Newell explains why a negative body image could be holding you back and how to improve your relationship with your body. Learn how to stop criticizing your body and feel at home in your skin, even if it’s not exactly the body you like.
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“One day I decided, if this is the body I have, I’m going to love it and I’m going to live with it. When I accepted it, a positive motivation started fueling more love into my body. I wanted to work out. I wanted to eat healthier because I was honoring and embracing my body rather than trying to fix or change it.” - Tamara Newell
Criticizing ourselves and our bodies has become the new norm, especially for women. Your friend mentions you look great and you point out your thighs. Your husband says you look sexy and you complain about how breastfeeding wrecked your boobs.
Our relationships with our bodies can profoundly influence our ability to feel happy and healthy. In this podcast, get practical tips on how you can thrive in the body you have and love every part of you today, without changing a thing.
Your relationship with your body is like any other relationship in life. It ebbs and flows. You have a choice in how you’re going to relate with it. If you want a good relationship with it, you have to make the choice over and over again to love your body, forgive your body, and embrace change in your body, the same way you do with another person. Listen now to learn more!
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Using Food to Reduce Your Stress | Ep 22
Tue, Feb 03, 2015
We all know we need to reduce stress, but how?
Holistic Nutritionist Ashley Srokosz teaches you how your diet can impact your stress and how you can use food to balance your hormones, reduce stress, solve sleep and digestion troubles, and even boost your sex drive.
Learn how to use your symptoms and cravings to identify what your body is really needing. Understand how your food impacts your stress, what foods you may want to avoid if you live a high stress life and which foods can have you feeling calmer and more balanced. Ashley will also share practical strategies for improving your family's diet on a day-to-day basis.
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The Exercise Puzzle - Finding the Time & Energy to Workout | Ep 21
Thu, Jan 22, 2015
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Adding a workout into your routine as a parent can sometimes feel like someone asked you to knit a sweater while climbing Mt. Everest. Fitness expert and busy mom of 4 Mariah Dolan teaches us how to find the time and energy to workout and enjoy the process even in the craziest of chaos.
Learn Mariah's 4 tips for fitting workouts into your busy life, as well as her advice for dealing with the negative voices in your head that keep putting you down. Learn how to create new neural pathways in your brain that will have you enjoying exercise more and what to do when you fall off the wagon and stop working out.
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Dreams, Desire, & Dirty Houses - Why Desire Can Change Everything | Ep 20
Fri, Jan 09, 2015
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Do you often work to "not get your hopes up"? Do you keep your dreams distant because you think they are crazy or impossible? Host Lauren Fire shares how she has been neglecting her own desire and what she is doing to change that. Learn about the power of desire and dreaming, and how you could be holding yourself back.
Even dreaming about something as simple as a clean house can propel you into the direction you want to go. Too many of us stop ourselves from dreaming and wanting becuase we don't understand the "how". We think: If I don't see how I can ever get another job, I can't dream of a better one. I don't see how I can afford a better house, so why even dream of one? Or we don't believe we can do it. We think: I've never been able to keep my house clean, why dream of a clutter-free home.
Learn how not to listen to the critical voices in your head that keep you thinking small. And learn why just allowing yourself to dream and desire, apart from the "how", can open you up to possibilities that you never imagined.
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Oh Inner Peace, There You Are | Ep 19
Tue, Dec 30, 2014
Ever had an “ah ha” moment that made the world look differently to you? Host Lauren Fire shares her biggest ah ha moment of the year and teaches you how to feel more peaceful in your life right now.
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My inner peace has to be more important to me than how much I get done or what other people think.
Most of us feel like we need to be productive or lose weight, THEN we can feel more peaceful. That’s backwards.
Work on the peace. Work on the happiness. Work on loving yourself and feeling good in your life, as it is right now, and the rest of it will fix itself.
As a mom, my inner peace is essential for my family to be healthy and happy. So I want to have more influence in how I feel.
I want to feel more peaceful and I’m going to make it happen. When I made this decision, I stopped caring what that voice in my head thought of me. There is so much freedom in that.
If you want to feel more peaceful:
1. 1. Decide that your inner peace is important.
2. 2. Start to become more aware of how you feel, in the moment.
3. 3. Make decisions about how you’re going to feel consciously, based on this new value system. Take the reins back. Choose how you want to respond to other people or events in life and choose inner peace more often.
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5 Ways to Stay Positive (When Everyone Else is Negative) | Ep 18
Wed, Dec 17, 2014
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Thinking positive thoughts helps you enjoy more of your life, but it’s not always easy, especially when people around you are complainers or Bad News Bettys (as I call them). In this podcast I explore how staying positive can improve your day-to-day experience of life. I will teach you five practical ways to stay positive no matter what is happening around you.
Your thoughts create your reality. If you are focusing on the negative, meaning you are entertaining thoughts about negative things that could happen or that have happened, your experience of your life will be more negative. It’s very simple in theory but very difficult to actually practice.
You do have control over what you think, much more control than you may think. You can’t stop thoughts from coming in, but you can choose not entertain them. Imagine an unwanted guest at you house. if you entertain him, he will stay. If you stop serving wine and cheese, and stop talking to him, he will probably leave. It works the same way with negative thoughts. Entertain them by focusing on them and they will stay around. Ignore them, or replace them with more positive thoughts and they will just move right through.
You have the power to shift how you feel. It’s not like turning on and off a light. It may be more like slowing a fast moving train, but you can and will make a difference if you work on it.
Here are my 5 ways to staying positive:
1. Build your own cheering squad in your head. List out a few mantras you can say to yourself that will lift you up or motivate yo. Mine are: "I can do this," "I doing a good job,” and “I’m ok.”
2. Remind yourself that motivating yourself with negativity does not work. Pushing yourself to succeed, be productive, work hard, or be a “good mom” with guilt, shame, and berating language actually makes you less likely to succeed. It makes you more likely to procrastinate and get depressed. If your goal is to feel happier and enjoy more of your life, then you’re on the wrong road if you are beating yourself up.
3. Figure out what you want. What is your ideal picture or outcome? Picture the outcome you want, using vibrant images. For example, if you want a really happy holiday week next week, picture what that would look like. How will you feel, how will the house look, how will the food look? How will your family connect? If you want to quit something, or do something more, like quit sugar or exercise, picture yourself doing it.
4. Move. Stand up straight, move your shoulders, roll them around, take a deep breath. Your body has a profound influence on your experience. If you feel negative, put on happy music and dance around. Change your body to change your thoughts and emotions.
5. Don’t get pulled into a complaining trap. When you are around negative people, Bad News Bettys I call them, don’t fall into the trap of bonding by complaining. You can stay empathetic without complaining along with them.
Bonus Happiness Exercise:
If you get triggered by family members or friends, try this. Next time they say something mean, picture yourself wrapping your hand around their head and giving them a big nougie and saying “ohhh you’re so cute with your….narcissism and meanness and way you always criticize me!” Or insert whatever they do to bother you. This will shift the way you see them and add lightness to the situation, which may help you not take them so seriously.
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How to Yell Less & Connect More | Ep 17
Thu, Dec 11, 2014
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"The way we react when our emotions run really hot means everything to our kids and to the next generation as well.” - Jessica Felix
Yelling doesn’t mean you’re a bad parent. It just means that you could use a few more tools in your happiness toolbox. Parenting expert Jessica Felix discusses what happens when you flip your lid. Learn what NOT to do after you yell and how to turn even your most stressed out moment into a powerful learning experience for your children.
3:20 - What happens in a child's brain when you yell regularly?
Most of the time. we yell because we are stressed or because we somehow get triggered by our chidden. When you yell regularly at your children, you are programming their brains to respond poorly to stress. By flipping your lid regularly, you are setting them up to flip their own lids easily too. You were probably programed by your parents or caregivers when you were a child as well.
10:40 - What can you do when you yell to rebuild that connection?
Start with an apology. It’s never a bad thing to apologize to your kids. Apologies aren’t just for adults. Don’t make your kids feel like THEY made you yell. Explain that this is not the way you want to be and that you’re sorry for yelling. It’s important for kids to know that you’re not infallible.
Let your kids talk about how it felt for them when you were reactive. They can even draw a picture about it. Ask them open ended questions like - how did that make you feel, what were you thinking when that happened? This allows them to express all of their feelings around what happened. It can be hard to hear as a parent. Be careful not to minimize their feelings.
Modeling this sort of communication is giving your kids tools for dealing with anger and stress in their own lives.
17:10 - What are the wrong ways to rebuild connection after yelling?
Be careful not to make an excuse instead of apology. “I’m sorry I yelled, but you were really stressing me out.” Say I’m sorry I yelled - period. Don’t sweep it under the rug and ignore it either. If you don’t acknowledge that strong emotions exist, you are giving your kids the message that strong emotions are not ok. And try not to swing the pendulum the total other direction by rewarding them. For example, “Sorry I yelled, let’s go for ice cream.” This sets you up for many other pitfalls.
21:30 - What else can we do instead of yelling?
The key to being responsive instead of reacting is preparation. You need a plan for what you will do the next time you get triggered or stressed. Step one is awareness - understand your triggers, the things that really get you right away. Maybe it's defiance or whining. Maybe it’s getting mud in the house. Triggers are different for everyone. What makes you really angry - maybe irrationally? Now picture it, go there. Think about how you would like to handle it, how you would like to feel.
Triggers bothers us because of something a parent or caregiver did. Be aware that you have them and explore them (when they’re not happening). Then when you can imagine it happening, make a plan for how you would like to respond. Imagine what you can do to stay calm and respond the way that you want to respond. Rehearse it. Imagine your child doing your trigger, feel yourself get upset, then plan how to respond. This is a powerful visualization technique.
Choose realistic (or lower) expectations. If your kids always whine at a certain time of day, be prepared for it. Plan how you will deal with it. Also set realistic expectations for the age of your children. And avoid compare-itis on social media. We see pictures and videos of our friend’s children’s best moments and compare our children. We’re taking everyone’s highlight reals and comparing them to our kids reality. This can raise our expectations of what our children are capable of.
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Quick Energy Tricks: How to Cope with Sleep Deprivation | Ep 16
Wed, Dec 03, 2014
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Parenthood doesn’t have to equal chronic tiredness. Energy expert Allan Ting will teach you simple tools and tricks you can use to pump up your energy when you are tired but still have to be “on.” He will also teach you changes you can make to your posture, breath, and beverage intake that will have you feeling more energetic all day. (Hint, it’s not to drink more caffeine!)
Allan learned energy boosting techniques by studying tai chi and qigong as well as neuroscience, Neurolinguistic Programming and high performance personal growth techniques. Get the cliff notes of his knowledge in this interview, including actual physical exercises you can do when you need more energy fast. These really work!
7:20 - How simply changing your posture can give you more energy all day
10:40 - How your breath affects your energy levels
14:10 - Why caffeine drains your energy (what a bummer!)
19:45 - Why you shouldn’t drink water during meals and shouldn’t drink ice water if you want more energy
22:05 - Learn 3 tricks you can do right now with your body to generate energy instantly (these are cool)
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How to Cut Family Drama (And Still Enjoy the Holidays) | Ep 15
Tue, Nov 18, 2014
Gratitude and thankfulness can be rough when your holidays are full of family DRAMA. Relationship expert Summer Howard teaches you how to reduce the amount of drama in your family while actually deepening and improving your family relationships at the same time. You don't want to miss this interview!
Learn a step-by-step process to use when you get triggered by difficult family members or extreme emotions and a way to use your intuition to improve your interactions.
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Healing with Creativity: How Creative Energy Can Transform Your Life | Ep 14
Tue, Nov 11, 2014
Your creativity could be the missing piece in your healing journey. Creativity coach Kathy Stowell will explain how opening your creative channel can improve your mood and expand your overall happiness.
Did you shut the door on creativity when you had a baby or became an adult? Does the word "creativity" conjure up images of puffy paint and hot glue? Creativity is actually not about the finished product. It's about the place you go, the energy you exude while you are in a creative project.
Kathy Stowell will explain how you can reopen this channel and rediscover an energy that can heal and transform your life. She will teach you how to pick new projects that will make you feel more alive and how let go of the perfectionism that may be keeping you stuck.
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Is This Postpartum Depression? | Bonus Episode
Thu, Nov 06, 2014
Postpartum Depression ("PPD") is one of the most common health issues for moms and yet it is also one of the least understood. Guest Pamela Zimmer, author of Reclaim the Joy of Motherhood: How I Healed from Postpartum Depression discusses PPD myths, realities, and healing strategies.
What causes PPD? What does it look like in reality? How do you know if this is baby blues or PPD? When should you seek treatment? Why do women try to hide it?
As many of you know, I am still healing from the postpartum depression that hit me when my daughter was 5 months old. Like many women, I misunderstood the symptoms of postpartum depression. Because I wasn’t “sad” or “down” or “unbonded to my baby,” I did not seek treatment until my PPD was severe. Today we’re going to talk truth, what is postpartum depression, who is at risk, how do you know if you have it, and what are your options for healing (besides just medication).
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How to "Pick Up" Mommy Friends & Deepen Relationships | Ep 13
Tue, Nov 04, 2014
How do you pick up a new mommy friend at the grocery store? How do you deepen a friendship with a mom you met in a playgroup or at school? Host Lauren Fire interviews Decker Cunov, a relationship expert who trains men to pick up and connect with women.
Learn how to break the ice with a new mommy friend out in public and ask them on a mommy date. Hint - it starts with presence!
Learn a simple a 3-step process you can use to deepen your friendships. If you want more nourishing and supportive friendships with other parents, Decker's strategy is golden.
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Is This All There Is? Finding More Joy in Motherhood | Ep 12
Tue, Oct 28, 2014
What do you do when you secretly feel like the reality of motherhood doesn't live up to the hype? What happens when the day-to-day grind makes you feel stuck, trapped, sad, overwhelmed, or just plain bored? Learn how to re-discover who you are and what you deeply desire and how to start making small shifts in the direction of a happier and more fulfilled life.
Speaker and leadership coach Tewana Pinard explores why moms have a hard time admitting discontent and what you can do when after you realize that you're not 100% happy. Learn a process you can use to discover who you are and what is most important. Learn why you may not have been successful at changing in the past and how small changes can bring you closer to your desires and dreams.
10:05 - Tewana explains why it's so hard for moms to admit that they're not happy
14:00 - How limiting beliefs can lead you to settle in default unhappiness
16:35 - A new approach you can use to discover who you are and what you want
23:20 - Why it's important for moms to put their needs up front in order for their children to ultimately lead happy lives
26:05 - Tewana's advice for how moms can start today bringing their passions, goals, and desires back into their lives.
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The Shame Buster | Bonus Episode
Fri, Oct 24, 2014
Learn how to move through guilt and shame quickly with this short exercise. If you are highly critical of yourself, this podcast will help!
Shame is a very destructive emotion, usually connected with highly critical thoughts and a tense body. If you feel really bad when you make a mistake, or find yourself working tirelessly to please no one in particular, shame is probably the culprit.
But how do you get rid of it? What can you do, in the moment, when you feel bad about a mistake?
You say this to yourself:
I love you and I forgive you. I like to use my name: I love you Lauren and I forgive you Lauren.
I learned this from Cheryl Richardson, a highly acclaimed author and speaker. She said in a tele summit earlier this year that she does this when she feels ashamed.
We all criticize ourselves. The people who live the happiest are the ones who have learned how to move through it, putting it behind them rather than in front of them.
It's not about improving yourself or fixing yourself. It's about learning how to work with what you already do. This exercise is a way to work with guilt, shame and self criticism.
If you want more exercises like this, you would enjoy the challenge that I'm giving away, called the Treat Yourself Challenge - 10 Days, 10 Ways to Shift from Crappy to Happy.
Every day you will try a happiness lesson, just like The Shame Buster. At the end of the 10 days you will understand how to shift from crappy to happy anytime you want and gain a new freedom over how much you enjoy your life.
When you sign up at: InspiringMama.com/TreatYourself, you will get: 10 short happiness lesson videos, an E-Book, and access to our exclusive Facebook group.
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How to Treat Yourself to Happiness | Ep 11
Tue, Oct 21, 2014
Treating yourself isn't just about an ice cream cone or a bath. You can treat yourself by allowing yourself to be happy in any moment of your life. Most of us know this in theory, but don't understand HOW to actually do this in practice. How do you treat yourself to happiness? How do you practice happiness?
Host Lauren Fire explains that happiness is not actually the natural result of success. In fact happiness and success aren't linked together at all. ave to actually do something.
To practice happiness, to treat yourself to happiness, you have to actually shift the way you work with your mind, body, and emotions in the present moment.
Learn how you can use happiness tools to shift how you think and feel at any time. When you learn to do this, you unlock an incredible power in your life to be happy no matter the circumstances.
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Wonder Woman Syndrome - Practical Solutions for Overwhelm | Ep 10
Tue, Oct 14, 2014
Our “to do” lists aren’t getting any shorter. And the organization tips in magazines only get us so far. We need a new way to think about overwhelm and productivity.
Lauren Fire interviews renowned sports psychologist and high performance consultant Loren Fogelman about overwhelm. Learn new ways to think about your particular brand of overwhelm and strategies for changing your relationship to the “to dos” in your life. Take back your power and feel stronger, more productive and happier with your accomplishments.
Bonus: To hear the entire tapping session between Lauren Fire and Loren Fogelman and to learn how to use tapping and the Emotional Freedom Technique to shift the beliefs that may be causing your overwhelm, visit the show notes page for this episode: InspiringMama.com/Overwhelm
Episode Quick Reference Guide:
4:40 - Loren talks about Wonder Woman Syndrome, how the quest for “doing it all” creates overwhelm, self-judgment, and inner criticism.
9:35 - Learn what causes overwhelm and how your belief structures influence how overwhelmed you feel on a regular basis.
12:50 – Understand negative self-talk and what you can do when self-criticism is causing you to feel more overwhelmed.
17:50 – Learn how shifting from “perfectionism” to “excellence” can shift your experience of your to-do list
20:25 – How a simple strategy you can do yourself, called the Emotional Freedom Technique (aka “tapping”) can shift the beliefs that are causing your overwhelm
28:00 - Loren’s advice for moms struggling with overwhelm and monster to-do lists. Download File - 41.3 MB (Click to Play on Mobile Device) Listen To This Podcast (Streaming Audio)
The Good Mood Generator | Bonus Episode
Fri, Oct 10, 2014
Who doesn’t love a good mood! Did you know you can generate your OWN good mood, no matter what is happening? How POWERFUL are you? In this bonus episode, I’m going to teach you how to access your power to feel TOTALLY AMAZING AND ALIVE whenever you want. I call it The Good Mood Generator.
The Good Mood Generator is one of the Happiness Practices that I give away every week to members of the Inspiring Mama Village. You can join at InspiringMama.com.
What is a Happiness Practice? I'm glad you asked!
My philosophy is very simple. When you practice happiness, you will enjoy more of your life.
Have you ever thought to yourself, I will be happy when…I lose 10lbs, change jobs, move, get pregnant…
I hate to be the one to break it to you, but sadly happiness is not going to show up at your door when you get any of these things.
Because when you get there, you will still be you. And you still won’t be happy. You may be happy for a bit. But you will soon find something else to strive for.
Happiness is not a goal. It is not the natural result of success.
Countless research studies have shown this. Countless celebrities and other “successful people” have proven this again and again with drug abuse, overdoses and most recently, suicide.
Happiness is a practice.
It’s something you do.
All over the world, authors, thought leaders, speakers, and researchers are all saying the same thing - if you’re not actively practicing happiness, actively trying to take more joy in your life, you are only living half alive.
If you want to enjoy more of your life, feel more alive, it’s time you start practicing happiness.
You can practice happiness with The Good Mood Generator, and the other short Happiness Practices that I give away to the Inspiring Mama Village. Download File - 7.7 MB (Click to Play on Mobile Device) Listen To This Podcast (Streaming Audio)
How to Chill Out & Enjoy It More | Ep 9
Tue, Oct 07, 2014
How can we, as parents, relax and enjoy the ride a little more? In this episode, host Lauren Fire discusses what it means to "chill out" when you are stressed and how you can actually change the way that you move and breathe to change the way your body processes stress.
Learn a quick way to feel more relaxed and present during a busy day. Learn how to live and work at a pace that doesn’t mean you sacrifice your health and happiness to take care of your family. And learn how to enjoy it all at the same time!
I have 2 gears. I either work at a crazy fast pace or I’m crashed out on the couch. I run, then I burnout. Then I run again. And so on.
I’m like the Hare in the old fable The Tortoise and the Hare. But instead of sleeping, I’m by the side of the rode watching Mad Men re-runs to zone out, while the Tortoise passes me by.
At this pace, it’s hard to take care of myself. As a result I’m burned out and exhausted much of the time. But I’m keeping up!
Ever feel that way?
How do we find a sustainable pace that doesn’t cause us to sacrifice our own health and happiness to take care of our families? And how do we enjoy it all at the same time?
1. Turn Off Survival Mode
The first step to finding a sustainable and enjoyable pace is to see what pace or “mode” you’re currently operating in. Look at how you move through your day. Are you running at a hurried and frenzied pace much of the time?
Are you in more of a “survival mode” or are you in more of “enjoyment mode”? In survival mode, when your son forgot his lunch or the baby missed a nap, you handle it the like a plane crashed and you have to fight off the smoke monster. A slow driver makes you feel like you’re going to rear end him on principal alone. In survival mode, everything is important, everyone is annoying or frustrating, and you feel like you are always running to catch up.
Honestly, I think I’ve lived on survival mode since I was 18 when my parents got a divorce. I felt I had to start taking care of myself, grow up, and I started pushing myself to succeed, to work harder, to be the best. Failure was never an option.
Sometimes we need survival mode. We need to act first, kick butt, and take names later. But if you notice that you are prone to burning out or to needing to “zone out” just to keep going, you may be stuck in survival mode.
You may have forgotten that you have a choice in the matter!
What’s wrong with survival mode? First off, it’s actually hazardous to your health. In survival mode, you are more prone to hit your body’s stress response.
Follow me here, I’m going into biology a bit. Your stress response is your body’s emergency alert system, readying your body to run from a tiger. When that alert is triggered, your body dumps stress chemicals that allow your body to perform at a higher level, to run faster for example.
The alert also causes your body to shut down parts of your system, to divert it’s precious resources to dealing with the tiger. So if you trigger your stress response regularly at smaller events, like slow drivers or tantruming toddlers, your body may be diverting energy from other systems like your immune system or reproductive organs. Ever noticed your body breaking down during times of stress?
Even worse, the more you hit that alert, the easier it gets to trigger, so the more often it will get triggered. This means that as stress increases, your body’s ability to process it actually decreases. It’s a vicious cycle that I’ve actually been stuck it in many, many times.
Ever had something simple, like a pile of laundry, make you feel like crying or just giving up? This is why.
This is burnout. And if you operate in a survival mode, like I do, it will keep happening to you.
We need to chill out. We need to live more in enjoyment mode.
Enjoyment mode is the opposite of survival mode. When you are on enjoyment mode, you don’t sweat the small stuff. You do what needs to be done, but if you make a mistake you are able to let yourself off the hook. You move through the day slower, at a more deliberate pace. You feel happier and more relaxed. The same slow driver that drove you over the edge in survival mode now just makes you chuckle. You are able to enjoy your life more.
We all have the capacity to operate in either mode. But which do you spend more time in?
If you are in survival mode more often, it’s time to ask yourself why? Look back at your life and ask see – was there an event that caused you to feel you needed this mode? Do you still need it?
2. How to Chill Out…You Gotta Gear Down
How fast do you move? How tense are you? If you were to compare yourself to a car, what speed are you running at most often.
I move very fast. Sometimes I feel like that I can totally relate to that little mouse, Speedy Gonzalez. I don’t know why. I just do.
If you were to take a deep breath right now, does it feel a little forced? If I said to you – relax your jaw – would you suddenly realize it has been super tense?
Both speed and tension cause your body to think it should be stressed. Your thoughts are not the only thing influencing your stress response. The way you move your body, breath, and carry yourself all influence your stress response.
Your body is constantly feeling, sensing, and evaluating your circumstances to protect you from danger. You can tell your body to be on high alert, like a deer, or you can tell your body that it’s allllll goooood, just by changing a few things.
This exercise is called Gearing Down. First, tell yourself you need to gear down. Just in your head, say it.
Imagine that you are a car, and you are dropping down into low gear. The car is still powerful, but it’s moving a little slower. Gear yourself down.
Now drop and ground yourself. If you don’t know how to ground yourself, check out my free mp3: How to Ground Yourself – Your Emotional Reset Button.
As you ground yourself, notice your breathing. Are you breathing shallowly? Are you holding your breath? Take a few deep breaths and let your breathing go.
Next, I want you to start moving slower. Just slow everything down. If you are getting breakfast ready, do it…slower. Open the fridge in 3 beats instead of 1. Move across the kitchen in 4 steps instead of 2. Walk slower, cut slower.
When you slow down, you will notice that you have to relax a little. Just as it’s hard to move fast and not be tense, it’s hard to move slowly and not relax.
Slowing down will also get you out of you head and into the present moment. When you gear down while playing with your children, feeding, or spending time with your partner, you will notice that you enjoy it more. It’s nice, like coming home.
When you gear down, you actually get to treasure the moments with your children in real time.
But you first have to let yourself enjoy it more. At lot of us operate on survival mode because we think we have to.
We work ourselves to the bone to prove something to ourselves or to someone else. We don’t let ourselves enjoy the fruits of our labor, much less our labor!
But you can’t chill out if you don’t give yourself the gift of slowing down. You deserve it. You can work hard AND enjoy it.
Remember, just because you don’t move at the speed of light doesn’t mean you’re not doing a fantastic job! So gear down mama and start chilling out and enjoying more of your life!
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When You're at the End of Your Rope...Do This | Ep 8
Tue, Sep 30, 2014
Learn a two-step exercise that will allow you to feel better fast when you are overtaken with feelings like anxiety, frustration, and overwhelm.
Whether it's a gassy newborn, a tantruming toddler, or a kid that won't stop asking why, life doesn't stop just because we are totally overwhelmed. Moms run the show. We still have to feed the baby, get the kids to school, and carry on with our responsibilities. A break is not always an immediate option, even though we are totally out of juice.
In this episode, host Lauren Fire teaches you how to shift your experience immediately to feel more like you can handle the immediate challenge. This practice can change your entire relationship with yourself.
Listeners can also download a FREE meditation track that pairs with this episode called How to Ground Yourself. Free at InspiringMama.com/InnerHug
Your experience of any given situation is made up of 3 elements , your thoughts, emotions, and body tensions. You can use these elements to shift your experience of any given situation, while it's happening. We start here with your body. You can use your body to change your thoughts or emotions, just by changing the way you are moving and reducing the tension you are carrying. You can change your thoughts and emotions to by using the simple self-soothing practice taught in this episode. When you can calm and soothe yourself, you are unstoppable!
Bonus Track! Listeners can download a FREE meditation track called How to Ground Yourself at InspiringMama.com/InnerHug
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Find Silence Within Your Busy Life | Ep 7
Thu, Sep 25, 2014
Ever feel like your mind won’t stop racing? Taking short mindful moments throughout your day can help calm your mind and bring you a little peace. In this episode, Dr. Karen Osburn, host of the podcast Mom at 41, teaches us how to integrate mindfulness into our daily lives so that we can enjoy the moments of our life more deeply and find a little silence no matter what’s happening.
Learn what mindfulness is, how to practice it, and how it can help you shift your thinking and experience. We will even start with a short exercise so you get a felt sense of what it means to “get into the present moment.” Even if you already feel overwhelmed, trust me, you CAN do this! Download File - 38.2 MB (Click to Play on Mobile Device) Listen To This Podcast (Streaming Audio)
How to FEEL More Productive | Ep 6
Tue, Sep 23, 2014
A super simple strategy you can use immediately to feel more productive with what you are already accomplishing in your life.
If your to-do lists get you down, or if you look around your house and seem to be constantly reminded of everything you haven’t gotten done, this episode is for you.
When you FEEL more productive, you ARE more productive. But when you feel like a failure and criticize yourself, you will get LESS done. Learn how to shift your thinking from self-criticism to positive motivation with one simple strategy to reprogram your brain.
Join the Inspiring Mama™ Village at InspiringMama.com and get simple happiness exercises that will transform your mood and calm your mind fast.
It takes a village. Let’s create one. Download File - 15.4 MB (Click to Play on Mobile Device) Listen To This Podcast (Streaming Audio)
How to Generate Patience Anytime | Ep 5
Wed, Sep 17, 2014
Learn a 3-step process you can use to feel more grounded and calm the next time the stuff hits the fan.
Patience is something you can create, in the moment. It just takes practice and awareness. Have you ever accidentally yelled at someone when you didn't really mean it? It's so easy for emotions to bubble up, especially when we're pulled in so many directions.
With the process that Lauren Fire teaches in this episode, anyone can generate patience when they need it most. The process is called the DIP Process, D for drop your belly, I for saying to yourself "I am not what's happening right now," and G for gratitude.
For a summary of what Lauren Fire teaches, download notes to this episode at InspiringMama.com/episode5
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Use Intuition to Release Worry & Anxiety | Ep 4
Wed, Sep 10, 2014
You have the power to release the worry and anxiety that sometimes comes with motherhood. Guest Amanda Dennis of PeleMa.TV will teach you how to tap into your mama intuition in a deeper way and use your intuition to combat worry and anxiety. Download File - 45.5 MB (Click to Play on Mobile Device) Listen To This Podcast (Streaming Audio)
Stop Stress from Stealing Your Joy | Ep 3
Wed, Sep 10, 2014
Learn the steps you can take right now to dramatically cut your stress in half by the end of the day today. Dr. Leonaura Rhodes, renowned neuroscience expert and mom will teach you how to take back the power over your stress so that you can feel more joy and fulfillment within your life.
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How to Raise Emotionally Healthy Kids | Ep 2
Wed, Sep 10, 2014
Learn how to positively influence the emotional health of your children. Guest Vikki Spencer from The Mom Whisperer will teach you the four stages of influence and layout steps you can take to raise children who are well equipped to handle life’s challenges. Download File - 48.7 MB (Click to Play on Mobile Device) Listen To This Podcast (Streaming Audio)
Why You Will Enjoy This Podcast | Feeling Happier is Easier Than You Thought | Ep 01
Wed, Sep 10, 2014
What is Inspiring Mama? How will this podcast improve your life? Host Lauren Fire tells the story of Inspiring Mama and explains why feeling happier is easier than you thought. Learn how the Inspiring Mama podcast will amplify your life and have you feeling happier fast. Download File - 14.3 MB (Click to Play on Mobile Device) Listen To This Podcast (Streaming Audio)
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